Repost from an old, old, old post... Just don't ask me what my reasons were for writing it at that time. And don't ask my why I'm reposting it now. It's just something I wrote way back that somehow made sense, something that should be shared.
I'm not love-struck. I need not be. I just still believe.
Attraction is logical. Respect is earned. Love is pure madness.
We can find a million and one reasons to like or not to like someone. That is attraction. It is based on rules, personal preferences that one makes consciously or unconsciously. The closer someone fits your preference, the greater the attraction. Charm, wits, a great body, a beautiful smile, wonderful expressive eyes, the right skin color and height, good social standing, secure financial position, the right career, the right name -- these are some of the things that may define the possibility of liking or not liking someone. In the end, it still is a conscious decision to like or not to like. It's largely black and white, not too much gray area.
There are some rare instances when we find people who fit all of our preferences. To us, they assume images which are god-like, almost perfect. These are often the people who qualify as Mr. Right, the one we think we have been looking for all our life. Sometimes it does work out, but sometimes it does not. At times, we get disappointed when we see the imperfections. We get disappointed because we realize that the things we have been searching for in a person seem unimportant and fleeting. There still is something missing. Thus, attraction may be a start, bit it is not everything.
Respect, on the other hand, is hard-earned. It is something that we only bestow on people whom we trust and highly regard, usually based on character and general disposition. It takes a while, a deeper knowledge of who someone is and how he deals with the world, before we can actually decide to respect someone.
In relationships, respect play an important role in almost all aspects. It takes a great deal of trust and respect before you can entrust someone with your life. Being with someone we genuinely respect gives us a sense of security. But still, respect is not everything. Though entirely difficult to earn, respect can easily be lost by some mishap or big mistake that a human being can fall into. Respect is an important thing, but it still is not everything.
Love is insanity, pure madness. Love is never over-rated. It can never-ever be explained or understood. Love does not require a reason because it is a reason in itself. Love does not measure, and love cannot be measured -- its depth, breadth, and height remain undefined. Love does not take any single form -- it could be anything. Love is illogical, it is madness. It does not know self-preservation. It entails moving, acting, and thinking in ways that are not typical of sane, logical people. Love does not require an explanation. The experience of love, both pleasurable and painful, is all that is needed to know love.
Why choose love? Because love does not reason. Love endures despite mistakes, it endures through trials and difficulties. Love never blames. Love knows no bounds. True love never ends. Beyond human reason, before the temptation at the garden of Eden, nothing existed but love. Love is the purest thing that remains. Love is everything.
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